Yesterday I was asked to stop breastfeeding my baby. And I’m pissed.
I was shopping at Orchestra, a kids’ clothing store at the Complexe Les Ailes shopping centre in downtown Montreal. They have a small semi-secluded seating area for kids with movies playing. My older kids were sitting in their stroller watching the movie when my youngest got hungry. So I fed her. She’s 5 months old and she eats breastmilk. From my actual breast. Shocking, I know!
I wasn’t even the only mother breastfeeding. I was being discrete, as if it matters, which it doesn’t (but that’s for another blog post). And I hadn’t finished shopping.
And that’s when the store clerk showed up and asked us both to stop.
Actually, she asked the other mother first.
“Why? I’m buying things…”
“Vous ne pouvez pas. [You can’t]”
Then she looked at me.
“Vous ne pouvez pas allaiter dans le magasin. [You can’t breastfeed in the store]”
Well. That’s not true. And I said as much. The Québec charter of rights and freedoms protects women against discrimination on the basis of sex. And preventing someone from breastfeeding in public constitiutes discrimination on the basis of sex. It’s even been tested in case law.
When it was tested in court, both the individual who asked a breastfeeding mother to stop and the business where that person was employed were required to jointly pay damages of $1000. It’s not a lot. But mentioning it was enough to get the sales clerk to pay attention and she hurried off for reinforcements.
The Canadian charter of rights and freedoms also prevents discrimination based on sex. However, no legal case has specifically evaluated the charter’s application to public breastfeeding. In BC and in Ontario [Added January 12: as well as Nova Scotia] there are laws that specifically allow women to breastfeed in all public places.
I knew the law. I knew my rights. But I was still upset. And not the angry, self-important, righteous kind of upset. The teary, scared, “they’re going to kick me out of the store”, “I’m here with my kids” type of upset. It was clear I was about to be thrown out, and I was pretty sure that if I was going to be forced to justify feeding my baby, I was going to cry. And I felt truly alone.
I don’t just think women have the right to feed their kids (breastfed or not) how and when and where they want to – and dad’s too. I think they should be invited to do so, really welcomed. Being a parent is hard work, and really it’s just one of those civilized things that nice people do for one another.
So I got up and stopped feeding my hungry baby. And then I went to the front desk. And I paid for the clothes I had planned to buy. That is the only part I regret. I think I was in shock. I think it hadn’t all sunk in.
The manager was up at the front talking to two clerks, including the one who had asked me to leave. And of course they didn’t realize I was the one who had brought up those nasty legal impediments to their request. So I had the pleasure of listening to them badmouth me, hear how I was ridiculous and how I should go to the mall breastfeeding room, and I was able to confirm that the store manager was fully aware of what was going on. I just made it out the door before the tears.
Now I should mention that Complexe Les Ailes does have a fabulous breastfeeding room, which I use often and truly appreciate. It is spacious and inviting and clean. And there are even tables and chairs for older siblings. But just because I like it does not mean I should be confined to it just because my baby is hungry (another blog post to come on that, but read this in the meantime).
So, what next? Well, there’s this blog now. Feel free to add some comments, if you support me. And I’ll be contacting the store, the store’s head office and the mall where the store is located. All I really want is an apology and an enforced, store policy that respects Canadian law and ensures that no other mothers will get the same shoddy treatment. Feel free to send your own letter, as well. [Added January 8: I’ll be filing a human rights violation complaint.] I’ve just been invited to a nurse-in on January 19. There is a Canadian petition to sign and a Québec petition to sign too. And after that, well, we’ll see.
À mes lecteurs francophones… Il est difficile face à un tel événement, émue et fâchée, de choisir les mots pour bien s’exprimer, encore plus dans une deuxième langue. Mes excuses de ne vous offrir qu’une version en anglais. Toutefois vous êtes bienvenues de laisser vos commentaires dans les deux langues.
For your letter writing pleasure:
(There is also a longer list here.)
Orchestra – Montréal
Vêtements Orchestra Canada Inc.
1010 rue Sherbrooke Ouest, suite 2402
Montréal QC H3A 2R7
Orchestra-Kazibao – Head Office
400 avenue Marcel Dassault
34170 Castelnau Le Lez
Complexe Les Ailes
650, de Maisonneuve Boulevard West,
Montreal QC H3A 3T2
Tél : (514) 288-3759
Although Orchestra is a French company with only 4 locations in Canada, the Canadian company Panda also distributes their clothes, so feel free to contact them too.
259. Labelle Blvd. #201
Rosemère (Québec) J7A 2H3
Tel.: (450) 818-9741
173 thoughts on “A tired hungry baby”
If I lived in Montreal, I would be joining the January 19 nurse-in at Orchestra children’s clothing store. There, a woman was recently approached by a sales clerk and told she couldn’t breastfeed her five-month-old baby. That just makes my blood boil!
It perplexes me as much as it infuriates me. Why, why, why on Earth would a female sales associate deny a mother of three the right to feed and nurture her small child in a store that caters to the mom’s very demographic? There’s no good reason or explanation, other than sheer ignorance and stupidity.
The woman, Shannon Smith, has launched a complaint with Quebec’s Human Rights Commission over her treatment. I say, Go, Shannon, go!! I’m behind you all the way.
Orchestre isn’t the first place to exhibit such deplorable judgment. In 2006, a woman was asked to get off a Delta Airlines flight for breastfeeding. (That calls for a “WTF?”!)
By contrast, other establishments are accepting and supportive—and I think they deserve a mention too.
When my second son was just a couple of months old, my husband, three-year-old son, and I went shopping for a new bed. My little one started to cry, so I sat down on a mattress and started feeding him. One of the store’s employees, a man, asked me if I wanted to sit on one of the deluxe, adjustable mattresses, the kind where you can raise and lower the top and bottom halves. I got all propped up as if I were sitting on a lounger by the pool. That same employee also offered a pillow for my back, then others offered me coffee and muffins that staff members happened to bring in for themselves to share that morning.
I wasn’t just comfortable; I was practically blissed out! (That store was Sleep Country on Marine Drive in North Vancouver. Thumbs up!)
I don’t qualify as a “lactivist” and I know and love many women who couldn’t or chose not to breastfeed their own kids. To each her own.
But I am appalled at Orchestre’s stand and I hope this kind of reaction to breastfeeding fast becomes a thing of the past.
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Grrr… Although, culturally, it is hard for me to nurse my baby in public, it is absolutely ridiculous, what happened to you. I’ll look into writing to all of these people. The ridiculousness! That too in a kids’ store?
I am in Calgary and I have just read about your unfortunate experience. It saddens me to read about such stories! Though I currently live in Calgary, I was born and raised in Montreal. I must say, unfortunately, while I lived in in Montreal I had the impression from those around me that breastfeeding was not something to be proud of – that it was shameful and should be done in private. I did not have children yet at that time but my friends who did have children never BF’d in public. In fact, those I knew who had children never even BF’d in front of me! I have been in Calgary now for over a decade and I have 4 children, all of whom were breastfed. Here I never ever felt that it was something to hide or be ashamed of. I nursed all my babies in public. I sometimes used the private nursing rooms at the mall, but honestly I prefered to nurse in the food court or in the middle of the mall because I enjoyed people watching. I never had any strange looks or snarky remarks. In fact, most of the time people looked me in the eye, and smiled at me. I was proud to be feeding my babies the best possible nourishment they can recieve.
I wish I could attend the nurse-in and support you! but just know that I am supporting you from Calgary.
p.s. There are more breasts in the media today that are far more indecent than a breat that is feeding a baby. It shocks me… You can see more breast on a tv commercial or a music video that what you see when nursing a baby. it saddens me that people still think today that this in indecent.
Your story is so touching. Thank you on behalf of all nursing women for speaking up and trying to make the world a better place.
I am in shock with your story. I cannot believe that in this day and age people still view something so natural and so beautiful as inappropriate! Like a previous person said – we so many breasts on TV, movies, etc – how is it that a mother breastfeeding her child when they are hungry is wrong?
I live in Nova Scotia and it is actually law here that no one can ask you to leave a store or stop breastfeeding – and I cannot believe that this isn’t the case everywhere! Here is the Nova Scotia rights:
I am a mother to a 9 month old boy and I still breastfeed him, and in public if he is hungry! Good for you for not staying quiet and for standing up and making a point – hopefully this will make some changes so that others don’t have to go through what you have gone through! GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Breast-feeding mothers – unite! I also was asked to fully cover up while breastfeeding my son; my son being a contrary and rather decisive little individual, refuses to nurse covered up. I was then asked “wouldn’t we feel more comfortable in the public restroom?”, which has no chairs or changing facilities btw. My answer was another question, “do you eat your lunch while on the toilet?”. I took the person’s horrified expression to be no, they don’t eat there so I told them that we would join her in the can for lunch, if she was on her way there. Sent that poor ignorant moron running!
My husband pointed out the article in the Globe because something similar happened to me last month. Except it was someone dressed as “Mrs Claus” who put her hand on my shoulder and said, “Dear, you really should be doing that in the women’s washroom.” I couldn’t speak, I was so shocked and surprised. I’ve since written a letter of complaint and hinted at the violation of the human rights code; I’ll be interested in whatever response I may receive.
Good for you for fighting! There should be no need, certainly, but as long as there are people who can’t understand that a baby has the right to eat anywhere (and, of course, that said baby’s mother has the right to feed that baby anywhere) strong women like you are needed to stand up for these rights.
Just to let you know that supporters have created a blog where we can put ideas and pictures of different places women has breastfeed in public and also the best and worst nursing room you have encounter in your area (pictures and comments please, funny comments also…!!)–(as breastfeeding in public is a right, there will be no discussion about that in this blog):
Un mot pour vous faire savoir que des supporters ont crée un blogue où l’on pourra donner des idées et mettre des photos de différents endroits publics où vous avez allaité, ainsi que les tops et les flops côté “salles d’allaitement” que vous avez rencontré dans votre milieu. (photos et commentaires svp)
– (puisque l’allaitement en public est un droit, il n’y aura pas de discussion autour de cela dans ce blogue):
ça peut faire avancer la cause de l’allaitement en public, et aussi aider à améliorer les endroits existants…et peut être mettre de la pression sur les centres d’achats qui n’ont encore que peu de confort à offrir aux mères qui le souhaitent…!!
Merci aux filles qui ont eu cette bonne idée pour le nouveau blogue!! (j’ai été témoin des échanges, c’était enrichissant et agréable de voir cette belle mobilisation!) Certaines seront au nurse-in…!
Isabelle Cloutier IBCLC
I went there once, but will never go again, except for the sit-in.
You’re not alone!
http://www.cbc.ca/video/#/News/Local_News/Montreal/1317903731/ID=1735476149 (à 8 minutes 30)
The problem is that our society only considers breasts as sexual objects – it is therefore OK to show breasts in a sexual way in television and movies but not in the basic, natural act of feeding our children. Bare a breast in public and ignorant people consider it a sexual act and indecent. Actually using a breast to feed our young contradicts the dominant idea of women as sexual objects and upsets the cultural norm. North American culture has all sorts of weird and conflicting issues with motherhood and sexuality, breastfeeding is certainly one of them. Good luck with your campaign, I have the luxury of living in British Columbia where breastfeeding in public is protected. As an imminently expectant mother-to-be, I intend to feed my child wherever I need to do so. While I intend to be discreet I certainly do not intend to limit myself to areas approved by others.
It’s ludicrous that people have a problem with women nourishing their offspring. Bottle or boobie, babies have a right to be fed on demand. Shame on people who can’t deal with a natural mother-child bond. Power to the breastfeeding mothers!!! Btw, I’m not a mother yet, just a woman who fully supports you.
My ACTION to this will be to smile and give a sign of support to any woman I see breastfeeding her child – anytime, anywhere. We need to make connections. More positive experiences to out way the nasty or uncertain gazes.
Mon ACTION sera de sourir et donner un signe de support a chaque femme que je voi qui allaite son enfant en public.
I offer complete support. There is no excuse for this kind of thing – especially in a CHILDREN’s clothing store. Babies need to eat.
Thank you for your courage to write this and spread the word! All our mothers and babies deserve respect. Obviously lost on those ignorant staff members. Like really? How did they survive their first years on this planet with out there MOTHERS!!!! Man that makes me frustrated.
I support you and so does my lovely daughter!!!
BREAST FEEDING ROCKS!!!!!!!!
Sad in this day and age that women have experiences such as yours. And sadder still that this is not a one off. It just occurred here in Vancouver in a furniture store. A mother was asked not to breastfeed. Then a reporter for the Vancouver Sun wrote a column about how it was really just all about being polite and, like dressing appropriately for a funeral, one shouldn’t breastfeed in public. It is really pathetic that a woman would write such drivel.
So thank you for standing up for women’s rights to feed their babies whenever and wherever they need to. It is after all normal.
Il m’est arrivé la même chose en octobre 2009, au restaurant [Editor’s note: redacted] Ste-Rose. J’allaitais mon fils de 9 mois, je d’ailleurs portais un chandail d’allaitement et un foulard! La serveuse est venue me demander d’aller allaiter ailleurs. Je lui ai demandé quel client s’était plaint, elle m’a dit que personne ne s’était plaint mais que c’était dans les politiques de la maison. Je lui ai expliqué que je n’arrêterais pas d’allaiter mon enfant et que je ne changerais pas de place, que seulement me le demander était illégal. Je lui ai aussi mentionné que pour certaines mères, ce genre de demande pourrait compromettre un allaitement parfois fragile. Je me suis plaint à [Editor’s note: redacted] Canada et ait reçu une lettre d’excuses.
Voici la copie de mon e-mail:
Comment le manager de votre magasin ose-t-il tolérer que de vulgaires grooms empêchent une femme d’allaiter son enfant ??? Vous avez eu de la chance que cette femme n’était pas moi, car loin d’avoir envie de pleurer j’aurais plutôt immédiatement appelé la police et fait un scandale. D’ailleurs vous pouvez vous attendre à une vague de mamans allaitant dans tous les rayons de votre sale boutique, si toutefois vous échappez au boycott pur et simple.
Vous avez aménagé une « salle d’allaitement » ?? Et alors ? Depuis quand une femme doit-elle se cacher pour nourrir son bébé ?
Je ne vous salue pas
A.D., femme, mère, qui ne remettra plus jamais les pieds chez vous
Lâcheté, étroitesse d’esprit, puritanisme et pudibonderie, certes !
Mais surtout sexisme, misogynie et hypocrisie en tout premier plan !
Et puis, oui, je l’ajoute et le maintiens : VIOLENCE !
(Et pour qui en douterait, qu’il lise Breast for the Weary – A tired hungry baby à :
Toujours la même histoire : le grand besoin de contrôler le corps des femmes, de les embrigader dans des règles stupides, de baliser leurs faits et gestes. Comme il y a loin de la coupe aux lèvres entre le beau principe d’égalité des sexes de la Charte canadienne et la réalité quotidienne !
Mesdames, persistez et signez ! Offrez à vos nourrissons ce que la nature fait de mieux pour leur croissance et leur santé ainsi que pour la création d’un solide lien d’amour et de sécurité.
J’ai allaité mes filles il y a près de 30 ans. Publiquement au besoin. Bien sûr, j’évitais l’exhibitionnisme, mais jamais je ne me suis cachée. Peut-être m’a-t-on servi moult regards réprobateurs, mais je n’en sais rien car je me centrais sur ces moments privilégiés avec mes petites et que c’est elles que je regardais.
Mesdames, quand vous devez allaiter publiquement, concentrez-vous sur ce geste millénaire, enveloppez-vous dans un cocon avec votre nourrisson et adoptez le calme et le flegme de celle qui a la chance de vivre dans un pays libre et qui use de ses droits. Si on s’objecte, ne donnez pas aux bigots le pouvoir de vous déstabiliser et de transformer votre geste sain en un moment de stress que ressentira votre bébé. Si on insiste, respirez calmement, ne bougez pas, priorisez le plus urgent : nourrir le petit affamé, et au lieu de dépenser inutilement votre énergie en discutant et en vous justifiant, demandez qu’on appelle la police pour régler cette affaire de droits et libertés, et surtout de gros bon sens. Non seulement le petit aura-t-il eu le temps de se rassasier, mais vous aurez aussi montré que l’allaitement est sain et naturel et qu’on n’a pas à s’en justifier.
Merci, madame Shannon Smith, d’avoir porté cet incident méprisable à la connaissance du public et honte à la boutique Orchestra qui n’a décidé de s’excuser qu’après avoir constaté l’ampleur de la grogne suscitée par son ineptie.
Dans le même ordre d’idées, je partage avec vous ce qu’a vécu ma fille à la clinique de fertilité [Editor’s note: redacted] à Montréal en décembre dernier, où elle était allée passer un test de clarté nucale. Alors qu’elle venait tout juste de payer près de 400 $ pour l’examen, son bébé de huit mois (sevrée du sein mais encore à la bouteille, vous vous en doutez) s’est mise à hurler, réclamant son boire. Ma fille a alors tendu un biberon à la réceptionniste qui a refusé catégoriquement d’utiliser le four à microondes des employés pour chauffer le lait ! Ulcérée, ma fille a fait comme Mme Smith et a quitté les lieux. Avec le recul et une fois calmée, elle a pensé à un autre dénouement : faire un sit-in avec un bébé hurleur et compter les minutes qu’aurait mis la réceptionniste avant d’agir, probablement pas dans le but de soulager la petite puisque le confort des bébés ne semble pas une priorité chez [Editor’s note: redacted], mais sans doute pour éviter que ne perdure la scène disgracieuse à laquelle assistait la clientèle de la salle d’attente… clientèle elle-même prête à payer cher pour entendre à son tour les pleurs de sa progéniture…
Mais non, le ridicule ne tue pas !!!
Excellent interview on CBC Radio, good for you!
I thought you might be interested in this link, it is about a woman who goes through similar experiences:
My husband Daniel did these comics over 10 years ago. Sadly, plus ça change!
I’ve just received a reply (see my earlier comment, #125 I think?), and am not impressed. The relevant part of the letter is one single sentence. It begins “In regard to your experience…” and continues with “…I have made note and will be sure to remind staff and volunteers of their responsibilities and conduct when addressing our guests, no matter what the circumstance.” I read that as “we’ll pinch our collective nose and tolerate babies breastfeeding, but we won’t like it and we won’t agree with it, so there”. And the person who responded couldn’t even bring himself to use the word breastfeed!!
Il y a quelques semaines j’étais interdite d’allaiter dans un magasin du centre-ville de Montréal. On songe maintenant à rendre la loi plus claire pour mieux protéger les droits des femmes d’allaiter en public, pour réduire les chances que cela arrive de nouveau.
Une nouvelle pétition gouvernementale existe qui propose une loi qui permettrait explicitement aux femmes d’allaiter partout en public dans la province de Québec. Cette nouvelle loi serait similaire aux lois qui existent déjà en Colombie-Britannique, Ontario et la Nouvelle-Écosse. .La députée d’Hochelaga-Maisonneuve, Carole Poirier, qui est aussi porte-parole de l’opposition officielle en matière de famille, a accepté de parrainer la pétition. Je vous encourage de la signer et de le faire connaître à votre entourage.
Signez la pétition:
I think most of us are missing the point here. The reason breastfeeding is bad is because we are brainwashed by the huge corpoarations that sell baby formula. There have been numerous cases in which corporations have changed the way society views a social norm just to sell more of their product. The goal is to make breastfeeding a bad thing because it is not profitable to a coporation. There have been numerous studies that prove that if we all breastfeed our babies, they not only are more healthy and have less incident of eary diease but also are more intelligent when they are adults. With the debate of rising health care cost i wonder why this fact has not been mentioned ?
You go girl! Try pumping in public places?!? So many restrooms don’t have outlets (my pump was electric) and I have pumped in people’s offices, in the corner of an airport, you name it!
Even here in California where women parade around practically naked with huge fake breasts, a real boob feeding a child creates an uproar. Go figure.
Very proud of you. Continue the work that you are doing. Your three kids are so blessed to have a mother such as yourself =)
I am a grammy now but nursed all three of mine in the 60’s and 70’s. I would try to pick a quiet corner and cover up well with a blanket and can report that either I got a pass or no one figured out what was going on….
It would be great if this truly beneficial activity was perceived as the good thing it is and ceased to ruffle folks’ feathers.
Nurse on Moms. That’s what your boobs are there for not just for decoration. Nature’s perfect food – always the right temperature, ready to serve and comes in cute containers!
I have absolutely loved reading the comments from such an incredible bunch of ladies. I wish my French was better so I could read all of them.
I breastfed my two children everywhere I went. This was in the eighties. Now my daughter is having twin girls and plans to breastfeed.
I never asked permission, and never ever breastfed in restrooms. Who wants to have their meals in a smelly restroom. It takes about 8 hours a day to nurse just one baby, and I wasn’t going to hide away somewhere. One time I was nursing my daughter while sitting on a park bench in the middle of a shopping mall, when an older man came and sat with me and visited. He didn’t realize I was nursing, and was asking me about the baby. It dawned on him when I discreetly switched sides. He got a bit embarrassed. I nursed my babies while I was in restaurants and having dinner.
I think that we have gone backwards. I usually see young women crammed into a restroom to nurse their babies. What happened? I live in Oregon and we are usually the leaders in rebellion and being progressive, so maybe that’s why no one ever said anything to me.
Nursing was the most convenient way to feed nmh babies. also, I’m a Registered Nurse and know the benefits.
when I lived in Africa, women were breastfeeding their babies everywhere.
I am the mother of a 2 1/2 year old non-nursed little girl. I cannot believe that in the 21st century people are so shallow and narrow-minded that they would actually reprimand a mother for feeding her child! I give you kudos for standing up for your rights and the rights of your baby to be fed. And to all the women who supported you at the mall “feed-in,” congratulations to them for standing by their convictions to bring awareness to what is right!
I am a mother of 2.5 children (expecting in April), and have breast-fed both my children so far. I have found that most of the negativity around my nursing my children came from my mother, who is against breast-feeding, as opposed to anyone in public.
Neither of my children liked having their faces covered up while nursing; they preferred to be able to look up and see me. Which is fair, I suppose; I wouldn’t want to eat with my head under a blanket either. By the same token, I don’t think it hygenic to tell women that they have to feed their infants in a bathroom, given that older children are taught never to eat in a bathroom because of germs. Next time someone offers that suggestion, ask if they eat on the toilet!
If they would allow a child to have a juice box or a bottle in that store, then a child should be able to breast-feed. If it is a place where people are not allowed to eat or drink such as a museum or church, I think they should not be breast-feeding there either.
I breast fed both of my daughters. With my first I was a young and inexperienced breast feeder, so if we got caught out in public, I usually fed her in the car or a dressing room, but that was because I was still getting the hang of the whole thing. With my second daughter I wasn’t as embarrassed and I had it down to a science so that things weren’t all hanging out there. 🙂 I didn’t always remember a blanket in the summer months. But I never will understand the craziness that surrounds this. It’s a baby eating. It’s not like it’s two adults who need to go find a room somewhere. And it’s not like the mother is sitting with her boobs hanging out since most women use nursing blankets and of those that don’t there isn’t anything to see anyway. People need to be a lot less neurotic about a baby eating; there is a lot more things to get hysterical about.
While I am not a nursing mother, or a mother at all for that matter, I can see where there is much emotion on both sides of this issue. I am in agreement that nursing mothers of all stripes should be allowed to nurse whenever and wherever they wish. I am NOT opposed to breastfeeding at all. It is beautiful and natural and I think healthier for the baby and the mother than formula.
However, I think there is a way to make everyone happy, as some people may feel uncomfortable with the idea that there are breastfeeding mothers feeding their children in public. Some people are just “puritanical” and if they even SUSPECT that breastfeeding is going on they will pitch a fit and yell and scream. They will refuse to understand the situation, even if denying the right violates the rights of the mother. In order to avoid the uncomfortableness of the whole situation, could someone explain (en englais, s’il vous plait) why extracting breastmilk into bottles and taking them out to use would not be an acceptable compromise? I know that there is something about the warmth of the milk, but sometimes even adults have to eat things that are meant to be eaten warm, cold.
I breastfed all four of our kids, now 24, 22, 18 and 16 years old. I can not believe this is still an issue! Really? I fed them on demand where ever we happened to be. I occasionally got a look but I’m an out spoken person naturally, so no one ever dared confront me.
Congratulate yourself on standing up for a babies right to eat when hungry. Good job Mom.
Good for you for breastfeeding your children! I breastfed all three of my children – sometimes in public if I was on the go. Although I was never asked to leave a place, there were many disgusted looks that I shrugged off. I hope that you are getting lots of encouragement from the positive comments left here!! I believe that there are many more sensible people with normal views about breastfeeding than there are of the other type. Sometimes you just have to be a duck, and let it all roll off your back!!
I wanted to say ‘Thank you’ for standing up for yourself, and your child. People don’t understand that the primary function of breasts was not for sexual pleasure, but for feeding our babies.
I commend you and others who participated in the mall protest. I say, “You Go, Girl!!”
Your friends & allies to the south (US) support you in this effort.
If we don’t speak up for our children, who will?
Just read about the nurse in today! Good for all of you! What ignorance to ask you to stop feeding your baby. I nursed all 5 of mine– and if they got hungry, I just fed them where we were at. I always used a blanket. I don’t think anyone ever got an eye full.
GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am appalled! That is utter bullshit (I apologize for my profanity but when I get upset I swear).
I do not have any children but firmly believe in nature and what is more natural than a more providing nourishment to her offspring.
People need to get their heads out of their asses. There is nothing profane or unnatural about a mother nourishing her child. I am thoroughly disgusted by anyone that even have a negative opinion about a mother breast feeding her child in public.
Society has gone for a shit – I do not know what has happened but over the past several years I swear to god that people have become more retarded. Smarten up people it is not like you have never seen a breast before!
I nursed both of my children and would do so again. They both know that it’s the right thing to do and will expect their future wives to share the same viewpoint. Breasts are for feeding babies first and spousal entertainment second. The objectors to breastfeeding probably feel uncomfortable acknowledging the secondary as well as the primary purpose of breasts.
Nursing moms do NOT intentionally expose their breast(s) in public, so the objection that nursing moms are acting in an exhibitionistic manner is invalid. It’s high time that women who choose nursing refuse to accept being sent to the ladies’ room, no matter how well appointed it might be. Anywhere an adult can eat is fine also for a baby. I nursed both of mine while sitting in the dentist’s chair having my teeth cleaned. There’s simply no valid reason to object to breastfeeding, period.
Just wanted to let you know you have sisterly support down in the states. We all just want to feed our babies. Thanks for being a good honest mom.
Good for you for standing up for your baby’s right to feed anywhere.
I think if anyone suggests that baby should be fed in a bathroom, they should pack their lunch and go eat in there themselves!
In the some of our states we have laws that protect the baby’s & mom’s right to nurse anywhere. I hope you are able to get the same in Canada.
Good luck & God Bless!
You go, mama! I can totally believed this happened. What did shock me is that you were covered up and a FEMALE employee still asked you to stop. Goodness. 😦
I am so sorry. But good on you for fighting this.
Good job momma!!! Babies should be breastfed where ever and whenever they need to be feed. My second I remember feeding in the middle of Disney World right next to the Tea Cups… I fed my daughter every where and we have the right to feed our babies the way babies were intended to be fed. Breastfeeding needs to be promoted and respected. I would much rather see a women nurse their babies then girls walking around half dressed….
Good for you! Stand up women’s rights to breast feed in public!!
Breastfeeding is a fundamental right of humans… The right to subsistence.
Its unbelievably sad if the public perception isn’t matured enough to accept babies feeding in public.
Support from India: Our women have a absolute cultural right to feed their babies literally anywhere the baby wants to feed. The baby’s urgency and need beats every other nonsensical right of adults.
The whole attitude and business of segregating and hiding breastfeed activity to rooms ought to be condemned in the strongest manner possible for forgetting one fundamental truth: That its human nature to feed and to be fed from the breast almost always in an urgency. Trying to barricade that right into narrow spaces like other calls of nature is absolute blunderbuss. Whats next, sneezes only at a special zone? smile area, anger venting ring?